How to Cope with Fear of Failure

After years of losing weight and gaining it back, it’s not unusual to blame yourself. However, many healthcare professionals would argue otherwise: The patients were not failures; the weight loss treatments failed them. It’s important to understand what morbid obesity is and how surgery transforms health.

Just like many of the bariatric surgery patients featured in Real Patients’ Stories, you might think that surgery won’t work for you. It’s a common concern.

Bariatric Surgery: A Tool

Bariatric surgery has a history of helping patients effectively transform their health. Bariatric surgery restricts the amount of food patients can eat and, depending on the procedure, the number of calories and nutrients the body can absorb.

As a tool, bariatric surgery has impressive long-term weight loss results and, in many cases, has resolved or improved co-morbid conditions.

Online Support Groups

More and more bariatric surgery patients are going online for support. It’s a wonderful way to reach out to people. However, there are a few watchouts:

  • Support should mean support: Some people may share ways for “cheating” bariatric surgery, or use the group to complain endlessly. This isn’t healthy or productive. Seek out healthy role models and limit contact with people with negative attitudes.
  • Look for support, not medical advice: Some people will take on the role of “the expert.” Be aware that they are not healthcare professionals, so do not take healthcare advice from them.

How to Find Support

Many successful bariatric surgery patients say that their support network helped them maintain their new lifestyle changes. JFK for Life’s Bariatric Support Group is always there for you.

Getting Support from Family and Friends

The first step in getting support is talking to your family and friends about bariatric surgery. You might find that they are completely supportive, or you might find that they are not. If they are not supportive, it may be due to fear. They may be concerned about your well-being and may think that bariatric surgery is risky.

If your family or friends are unsupportive, take a few moments to talk to them further. They may only know the myths of bariatric surgery. Explain to them why you are considering bariatric surgery and share with them theRisks of Surgery .

You may want to take a moment to download Your Role in Supporting the Bariatric Surgery Patient. (479kb PDF file*) It outlines:

  • The importance of support
  • The facts of bariatric surgery
  • Tips for your family members or friends

Attending Support Groups

Lastly, consider attending a JFK for Life Bariatric Support Group meeting. JFK for Life Bariatric Support Group meetings are normally held the the second Tuesday and third Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at the JFK for Life Offices, 98 James Street, Suite 212, Edison NJ. It is run by the JFK for Life Program Coordintor and a Registered Dietician and has guest speakers on topics of interest to bariatric patients. The Bariatric Support Group schedule page is kept current with any schedule changes.

Support groups are an excellent resource. You’ll find people who have similar wellness goals, who want to celebrate your successes, and who support you in challenging times. Support groups are devoted to these common experiences, so you can share your feelings in a safe environment.

For more assistance, please contact JFK for Life. Our staff will be happy to help.

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